So today I got a little emotional and decided to rant out here for my loved ones and I’m sorry if you find yourself under the discussion point, I still love you ..
Well my heart just goes out to the wedding planners cheers you are great people. I pour it down for the woman who has been dreaming about this since she was eight. Mothers stop making children believe in some fantasies because when they grow up they don’t know how to deal with them. My heart also cries out to the man that thought he found his beautiful Diana and hoping that on the inside she’s a dime just like her outside. I also want to thank the Team mafisi and fisettes for attending their ex’s wedding to prove a point, have you proved it yet ? will see.
Okay , now that I’ve got your attention I will shoot my arrow right into your thoughts.
I have not gone one day on my phone reading emails, texts or even just blog post of people ranting out of marital issues and break ups. Now hold up, a marriage as far as i am concerned is not dating like it was ,you know , the wild, beautiful bliss of dressing up ,fancy dinners, lovemaking in the coast ,waxes , manicures, everything impromptu, perfect new just to impress. No it’s the legal and formal partnering that is recognized by a union between a man and a woman,. It’s the real you ,you just don’t get up and decide he’s a mess and you can’t stand him so you need to leave ,well each marriage has their perpetual issues but how you deal with them is the simple foundations of keeping your marriage alive and strong.
Early in marriage you may argue and disagree about a number of things. I mean, you should. You’re still figuring each other out and navigating what it’s like to live together.
Your expectations and dreams are always confronted with reality and those things never line up completely. So what do you do ?
A lot of millennial marriages are tearing down right after they have walked down the aisle and it’s very sad how we have shown that truly marriage is just an event for many of us, and for those attending it’s like a party we’ve been invited for by Johnny and Naliaka. do we really sit down and realize that marriage is not a product but an investment where we have to work together to make it work. It’s putting two different people with probably different or similar minds together and their vows have agreed forever.
I am going to give a few great tips on how to keep your marriage Alive ,Healthy and Strong. This is based on the interview i had with my lady friend and she stole me some tips.
Sex should be a priority not a Job
Spend time together
Be a caregiver
Appreciate each other
Don’t try to change them
As I exit I would like to leave you with my favorite couple statement, ’The secrets you keep the less opportunity you have to feel real intimacy or connected’’.
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Below is the Transcribed scrip of the talk with Dr.Elenna. Enjoy
Check the Audio out link with the full tips info on sound cloud
Host :A very good evening to you thank you so much for tuning in to the live wire today here with us we have Dr. Elena as we talk about keeping marriage Alive, strong and healthy. Karibu sana Dr. Elena.
Dr.Elenna :Hello everybody thank you for having me on your show today my name is Dr.Elenna and this are some of the marriage tips that help my clients throughout the relationships and made their relationship stronger. Some of the tips include communication its the vehicle through a marriage you need to use your words and actions to interact with your spouse we like to think of ourselves as independent adults who can make up our own minds but often another person’s thoughts will determine your partner’s. This is speaking of your partner’s decision this takes me to understanding ,you have to understand each other couples who understand each other stick together because of the communication. Now if you’re not okay with something before you married what makes you think that should be okay but then after your married. If you’re not okay with something you should let your partner know, do let your partner know about the deal breakers and also you need to appreciate your partner instead of seeing the relationship for what it is right now. Seeing it for what it could be, now those are the things that bring down so many relationships. You want your partner to be a bit more to have a big muscles or to be a little bit more skinnier or to wear more makeup or to stop wearing makeup. You should learn to accept your partner for who they are right now or you’ll never accept them at all, never try changing what is there already.
Now going into financial planning. This is the mother of all the problems in a relationship even marriage many people don’t consider saving especially a time like now we just want to live in the moment. We don’t know if your going to have kids.We don’t know if you want to travel you just want to be with your partner right now have fun but are you considering what’s going to happen next, maybe your husband is relying on his parents finance cheques or you’re waiting for that bonus at work but it’s not coming through. You really need to understand where you’re money is coming from, how you going to support your family, if you’re going to put your money as one or you’re going to have your money separated as individuals that’s for you to decide.
On to the next thing we can discuss about spending time together. Well most people think well I’m going to go to work I’m going to come back home and I’ll be with my partner the rest of the evening but does that really mean your spending time together. Intimacy is very special whether sexual or emotional intimacy. Some people run away from relationships because there scared to have any of those. So the moment you’re able to be intimate with your partner without having sex that’s the kind of intimacy everyone wants. It’s what keeps the relationship pure and Raw at the same time sex is very important to. You don’t want your partner to have an affair with someone but what are you doing as a wife or husband to make your wife or husband go out to look for sex elsewhere. Many people forget that when God created us, he created us to be man and wife. These are things that marriage becomes stronger and this is what builds a relationship.
Host- You made me quiet and still.
well that was a wrap of our interview with Dr. Elenna and myself thank you very much for listening Bye Bye.